Another way this language of Sarah is expressed is she likes to do the grocery shopping together. I always say, 'Do you want me to come?' And the answer is always yes. But it's not for me to lift heavy shopping bags or get down tins from high shelves. It's for quality time with one another.
Yet somehow by the time I get into the vegetable aisle, I've forgotten my foremost husbandly duty and I'm off. Give me a job to do. I'll get the tomatoes, you get the carrots and we'll rendezvous near the lettuce. But Sarah keeps reminding me, it's not about getting things done as quickly as possible. It's about getting the shopping done together, even if it takes longer (which, I must add, it most certainly does).
There's not a lot of pragmatism in romance. Or perhaps it's better expressed, there's not a lot of romance in pragmatism. Either way I should know better by now.
An epiphany! I think I finally realised as I read this, nodding along (except for the golf bit), why Robyn always sees shopping as a two man job when I think that's an inefficient use of time.
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this is actually a fantastic example of how guys and women differ on going to the shops. Most guys are straight in and out, however women like to browse... "oh what's on special, which vegies look good?"
ReplyDeleteNot being married, going shopping is great for ministry too. When you don't have time to "catch up" with someone, arrange to do your grocery shopping together. Two birds with one stone. :)