The wisdom I wish I never had to gain

A lot of my blogging energy over the past month has been directed towards helping Sarah write some posts for the Equip Book Club, where she reviewed Just the two of us? Help and strength in the struggle to conceive.

Sarah did the thinking and the writing. Then we discussed the posts together, I would re-read the chapters, offer suggestions and add a bit of polish, before back to Sarah for final editing.

I hope one day I am part of that group of people who feels slightly guilty talking about infertility, because God has chosen after that season to give the blessing of children. It's strange that many who 'graduate' from infertility*, feel like they have been blessed with a great empathy for others experiencing it, and yet equally feel like any advice they give sounds a bit hollow when the back seat of their car is full of little people.

And so, ever since Sarah and I began on this path, we'd always hoped to take some time to write down some of the things we were feeling in the moment, in the hope that those reflections would be of benefit to others if by God's graciousness we were ever to leave 'the club'.

I hope that these posts of Sarah's have gone a long way to achieving this purpose.

1. Our Story
2. The Cold Hard Facts
3. So Many Questions
4. Acknowledging the Pain
5. Who am I?
6. Marriage, Men, and Miscarriage
7. Treatment
8. The Long Unknown

*I should add that many people who are eventually granted children by the Lord continue to mourn their infertility, whether it be that they cannot have kids without intervention, or even that their peer group will always be those few years ahead of them or have more children.